In my last article, 7 Powerful Benefits of Self-Compassion: Part 1, I discussed the first two powerful benefits of self-compassion. In this article, I will cover three more advantages people experience when they are more compassionate with oneself.
3. Self-Compassion increases motivation and productivity by empowering you with encouragement rather than criticism.
It takes a lot of energy to constantly cut ourselves off from the flow of our lifeforce. Researchers who study motivation consistently link self-confidence and the ability to reach our goals. Self-criticism undermines self-confidence and is strongly associated with depression, limiting the energy and focus we need to work toward our dreams.
This is why so many influencers focus on a positive mindset when talking about productivity and success. While this is key to our own mental health, success also depends on compassionate responses in the workplace. According to Stanford psychologist Emma Seppala, promoting a culture of trust – rather than fear – encourages collaboration and inspires a creative workplace, built on the skillful use of compassion and curiosity.
4. Self-Compassion reduces stress, anxiety, and depression that result of self-criticism.
Many of the women that come to me for compassion-based psychotherapy suffer from a great deal of anxiety and depression. Research confirms what I have witnessed in my practice, that people who are more self-compassionate are better able to maintain emotional balance, have more perspective on their problems, and mobilize coping skills when difficulties arise (see Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff).
I am not surprised by the research because giving compassion to ourselves doesn’t require us to evaluate our accomplishments, failures, or worthiness. It is understood that we have both strengths and weaknesses and if we are suffering, self-compassion helps us show up for ourselves with a heart full of loving kindness.
5. Self-Compassion increases satisfaction in relationships.
Without knowing the research, it makes intuitive sense that if we are compassionate with ourselves, we reap incredible benefits. You may or may not be aware that self-compassionate people are better able to form close, authentic, and mutually supportive relationships with romantic partners, friends, and family (including our children).
Because we are so emotionally vulnerable in intimate relationships, we often fear we are being judged by others. When we learn to transform our criticizing mind to one that accepts, encourages, and forgives, it becomes much easier to extend compassion to others.
Imagine what it would be like, if in our intimate connections, we worked to support, encourage, and offer compassion to each other in difficult times rather than arguing about who is right or who is hurt more? Imagine the effect it would have on our children if we gave ourselves the gift of self-compassion when we cannot be the perfect parent or caregiver?
That’s it for today so until you read the next post, tune into the shifts that happen when applying self-compassion to your daily life. What do you notice? Let me know in the comments!
I will cover two more of powerful benefits of self-compassion in my next post. Until then, go easy.
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